Have A Cup of Coffee With Me: In Pursuit of Finding Your Happiness

There's a lot of people say that happiness is a choice, happiness is a state of mind, happiness is like minding over matter. What is happiness anyway?

According to merriam-webster dictionary:

Simple Definition of happiness

• : the state of being happy
• : an experience that makes you happy

Happiness is a sense of well-being, joy, or contentment. When people are successful, or safe, or lucky, they feel happiness. The "pursuit of happiness" is something this world is based on, and different people feel happiness for different reasons. Whenever doing something causes happiness, people usually want to do more of it. No one ever complained about feeling too much happiness.

To what extent can we do to attain that happiness we ever wanted. For sure there's a lot of ways to be happy. I remember one movie I've watched because it because Simon Pegg is my favourite British comedian-actor. Have you heard this movie called Hector and the search of happiness? 
Hector is a quirky psychiatrist who has become increasingly tired of his humdrum life. He tells his girlfriend, Clara, that he needs to go on a journey to research happiness. So far I love it like the movie The Secrey Life of Walter Mitty.Another must watch movie. :)

Sometime we are like Hector we want to search that happiness somewhere out there. All of us might be different, but we pursue one kind of happiness, a happiness that doesn't stop for just a period of time. But do we have to search happiness just to obtain it?  I always believed that happiness is like a sand even if we tried to hold in our hands we won't be able to grasp the entire of it, because the next thing you open your hands its all gone. For me? I don't want happiness to be just a few second of feelings, but rather an unlimited source of nothing but pure good feeling. For someone who has difficulties in life and have tons of problems I know it's hard to be happy or even fulfill happy. But you know in my country. Even people who doesn't have any, people who live in the street, people who have no time, people who have life is on the go, people who have a good state in life, all the likes they know how to live a happy life despite the harsh world around them. I guess even in other countries who guns and bombs are always around praying when it will ends. I guess that is where they find hope even in the slightest light of happiness.

I cannot judge the entire world on how they pursue happiness, because all of us can attain happiness in many reasons, in every way. I tried to obtain happiness despite the happenings and things that surrounds me and we all do have rights to be happy. Let me share some few points Hector finds searching for happiness:

Hector: 1. Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.
Hector: 2. A lot of people think happiness means being richer or more important.
Hector: 3. Many people only see happiness in their future.
Hector: 4. Happiness could be the freedom to love more than one woman at the same time.
Hector: 5. Sometimes happiness is not knowing the whole story.
Hector: 6. Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.
Hector: 7. Does this person bring you predominantly a. up b. down?
Hector: 8. Happiness is answering your calling.
Hector: 9. Happiness is being loved for who you are.
Hector: 10. Sweet Potato Stew!
Hector: 11. Fear is an impediment to happiness.
Hector: 12. Happiness is feeling completely alive.
Hector: 13. Happiness is knowing how to celebrate.
Hector: 14. Listening is loving.
Hector: 15. Nostalgia is not what it used to be. 


I remember when I was kid I don't have much problem about the world, because as kid we only think about few things. As a child we're so innocent about everything and for a chile happiness is more than just a thing it is much more bigger and vast than being an adult.

Professor Coreman: How many of us, I wonder, can recall that childhood moment when we experienced happiness as a state of being. That single moment of untarnished joy. That moment when everything in our world, inside and out, was alright. Everything was alright. 

Another best example of Hector talking to a monk when he went to Himalayas. I like this conversation. Monks have a very high wisdom. I respect there iniquities of life:

Hector: You've been a fugitive. You've been in prison for your beliefs, you've lost family and loved ones. I mean, you've just been through so much. How is it you're so happy?
Old Monk: Because I've been through so much.
Hector: I mean, searching for happiness is one thing, but making it the goal, it just doesn't work, does it?
Old Monk: Higher than that, Hector. More important than what we are searching for is what we are avoiding.
Hector: Like unhappiness. So, don't make unhappiness *not* the goal?
Old Monk: Higher than that.
Hector: Avoiding unhappiness is *not* the road to happiness.
Old Monk: You hold all the cards, Hector. 

As my conclusion Happiness is indeed a state of mind and if you want to keep that way despite the bad things happening it is still a choice we can make. The importance of the present is the key to the
future. No matter what you or what you decide in life it will always have a ripple effect in tomorrow. Happiness is not beyond our reach it is always there. This is not a perfect world, but we can say it is whenever we feel that short, limited happiness in our everyday life.  Everybody is responsible for their own happiness.





XOXO,
Ivy