Have A Cup of Coffee With Me: The Perks of Moving On

We've all been there as far as I know. Meeting someone, falling in love, falling out of love, betrayed trust, it won't work anymore, it's not the same anymore and eventually the next thing we know we're all alone. But I can guarantee not far too long. Take your time to go through the process, we all have different ways to cope up a relationship that didn't work out with of course in different reasons. There are ways to enjoy ourselves in embracing singlehood until we manage to say that we are ready to be with someone again, but everything takes time and let healing takes you in from it. Know to it and keep it mind we all deserve better from the ones we had.

Base on my experience when I found out the truth, everything crumble and it feels like

my life just when into a halt. Take note I'm not sharing this because I'm bitter or I felt bad, or I hate the person. No! This is just me trying to help myself and people who have the same situation as I do. Moving on... I know there's already many signs and red flags of the relationship, but because I love the person too much and trust him I ignore the signs which leads to more painful result and ending. It was a gloomy day when you lost the person you love, it was an unfair situation I got myself into and I ask myself why me? Why after all I did still the relationship I build a future with ended up badly? If you're in the same situation as I do, it is not our problem or fault if it happens. They just want something different, the thing is we're not part of it. Their ways are different and eventually decided to do other things. We never short of everything, we can be too much, but never short. I cried my eyes out for days and thought a lot of things. Even it doesn't have any sound I've heard my heart breaks more profound in silence. Everything just come at once and it just happened 3 days before my birthday. What a great gift! I almost have an emotional breakdown and everyday it hurts. But sometimes you just have to stop and put it to an end.


I still love the person and I still do care, it is something I can say unconditional, but not the way it was before and that's why I manage to forgive him despite of what happened. Even we're not together anymore I still think of him and miss him when everything seems to be quiet but it is actually a part of the process but love includes of letting go, until it fades away. I believe that will make him happy as well.



I tried to find ways to distract myself, get off my mind and my chest before things get worst so I've read a lot of article on how to deal with this in almost everyday of my life:

1. Accept that the relationship is over
2. Don't look back on the happy days of your relationship it will only make it worst than you already have. Because you will ask yourself a lot of why's and you will also say a lot of what if's. SO DON'T!
3. Try to say this to yourself. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! YOU GAVE YOUR BEST! and that's it.
4. You can scream it out load to the world. (I'm working on a cruise ship and I tried to scream all my lungs out in the helideck just by the crew area and I can guarantee it will make you feel better.)
5. You can share it with a friend so they can comfort you.
6.  Try to avoid feeling sorry for yourself you know better that you deserve best.
7. Don't plunge in to stress eating or because chocolate makes you feel better. That's a big NO! You don't want all of that goes to your waist line.
8. Don't ever compare yourself. You're a unique person. You're better and good the way you are and the good news is there's billions of people in the world God allotted one special person just for you.
9. Don't hate and never grudge the best result of moving forward is to forgive yourself and forgive the person. I know to others it might not work, but it will lift the weight on your shoulder and it actually help you to be happier. They say that the best revenge is not to destroy the person or destroy whatever they had reason they left you, but let them see that you're happy and having a good life, because you know that they're no longer part of that happiness. It is better that you move on in life without living any bad impression, but only good memories about you. ;)
10. This will open you a lot of opportunity to do a lot of things in your life until the day that you're all better now. It's not the end of the world, it is not bad to go through something like this in life. There's a lot more worse happening in the world. This one is just a speck of it.

There's a lot of stuff I can put here and this is just some perks I made according to my own. There's also a lot of article that can help you to move on. I'm still in the process of getting over the bridge of my tears, but doesn't take the happiness I can have in my life. On my side, Right now I'm enjoying my work even it's stressful and annoying some times I enjoyed my time with my team. I say hello to every one I meet and give them the best smile I can ever give because they deserve it (you'll never know what burden they're going through right now). Ever since it happened I lost a lot of weight and so hard to eat. I'm completely drained, so I decided to commit myself to eat healthy and motivate myself to a 6 days gym day every week. I want motivate myself to be a better, strong person, to make sure that I stay active until I meet my goal for a smoking hot body. :) One off day as my cheat day so I can have time to watch movies or tv series or even read new books I missed. 

Love yourself/loving yourself is also the best way to heal the wounds up quickly. What else? I'm preparing myself to become whole once again you'll never know the opportunity of a possible relationship in the near future. Who knows the next one might be the one I've been waiting for just so you know. Right now, I want to spend as much time as I can with myself, my family and friends until I am ready. It is not advisable to go under someone to be able to move on it will just make things worst and you're just making a fool out of yourself (I mean in my opinion, but if you guys feel like being with another one in a short period of time and if that's how you heal then I'm not stopping you. We all have our own ways, remember?)

That is all for me I hope it helps you as much as it helps me. Goodluck!

Xoxo,
Ivy